What the Voyeur spent 30-plus years not understanding was that the distance, the difference of beauty was actually good itself*. He saw every lovely woman as a thing to be contained, to be brought under his control, to be drawn near to himself. In love we speak of a lover who giveshimself or herself to us, because that is what we desire: the whole self for ourselves. We are taught by culture to see the distance of beauty–the beautiful woman outside of our grasp–as a problem to be overcome or a sign of our failure, and so we want her to either disappear or to acquiesce to our power. But it’s all wrong.
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